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Everywhere i go,i noticed the short guys are always being mocked at for dating girls that are taller than they are.Why do people always give a second look to couples where the guy is shorter than the girl?Why the stigma?This is 2009 people!
My quick answer to this question:
They’re jealous. By the way, I’m not short myself, so I am unbiased. The guys who mock short guys for dating taller women are secretly jealous at a guy who was able to beat the odds and overcome both biology, instinct and social programming.
As you know, brainwashing in our society on what men or women are supposed to be attracted to, or who they should date -> is INCREDIBLY strong. Now… Most guys (and gals) just settle for what they think they should. Women who have a few extra pounds, believe they have to settle for a guy who has the same extra pounds… This is because its much easier than to learn how to overcome society’s conditioning. You can do it however. If you’re a reader of this site, you know that’s all bullshit, you know that all of it can be circumvented if you know.
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Perhaps the answer lies in the evolutionary history of the human species. On average men have a larger muscular structure compared to that of women? It could be that as we humans evolved, the female of the species tended to select for males with a larger structure. The idea being that larger males would be more capable of hunting and gathering and thus being able to provide better support for females that chose to be their mate. I believe this theory is what is referred to as sexual sexual selection.
As a result of this, as time progressed males became larger than females and with time we have also become mentally attuned to seeing women with a taller and on average larger male. Hence, when we observe women with men of smaller stature the image is at odds with what we would normally expect.
Now I am sure you know that people tend to react to anything that is “abnormal” or at odds with what they are used to or what their mental picture is. It is for this reason that people often take a second look at couples where the man is of smaller physical stature compared to the woman.
Perhaps human evolution is moving away from when women select males based on their physical stature. Perhaps there are some other factors that women seek out like intelligence. Or perhaps there are particular physical characteristics that indicate intelligence, so given several hundred thousand years or so women seen with a shorter man will not be such an oddity.
Just my thoughts…
It’s just something that isn’t common and people are often taken back by this. As a tall woman, I personally would never date a guy shorter than me and just about all of my female friends feel the same. For one thing, it makes us feel like less of a woman to date a man that is shorter. Secondly, tall guys make a woman feel safe and protected. I think that it’s something that has been drilled into us from society that anything different just feels uncomfortable.
You can’t blame anyone, they have eyes to see and so have you to look the way your like it. Nothing wrong but the wrong is in your mind and not others, they don’t feel it but you do.
Best way to ease yourself out in thinking is to get your girl to wear flat shoes and you, high heel boot. Another way is don’t care a dame about it.
I don’t know dude it’s true cause look at tom cruise and katie holmes i mean she towers over him,but i think it’s just that people think guys are like supposed to be taller than their girlfriends,and it makes the guy who’s taller look more protective,and strong enough to stand up for his woman..lol.I hope i made some sense.
I think you’ll probably be able to find the answer to your dilemma at Lisa Daily’s site, http://www.datingexpert.tv (Plus, there’s a lot of good info there.) She’s the author of two dating books, HOW TO DATE LIKE A GROWN-UP and STOP GETTING DUMPED. It’s one of my favorite sites for dating tips and advice, and the videos are pretty funny.
I’m pretty sure she answers questions that are sent to her, you might try her for an answer to your question.
I don’t know. It’s crazy though. I am 21 and so is my boyfriend. We have been together for over 4 years now and he is about 3-4 inches shorter than me. If you love them it doesn’t matter. People are so judgmental and just need to stay out of other peoples business and relationships.
because guys are supposed to be MASCULINE, not short, and muscular, not thin and lanky—meanwhile women are supposed to be petite and feminine.
well…not according to me, but apparently to society
SOME boys still think that girls are lower than boys so they find it weird to see a guy dating a girl who’s taller than him.
I’M TALLER THAN MY HUSBAND–NO PROBLEM FOR EITHER OF US–HE EVEN ENCOURAGES ME TO WEAR HIGH HEELS IF I WANT.
because its weird! im a 5’3 15 yeat old girl and really only am attracted to guys who are 5’9 and up usually like 6’0 though
It’s probably because the ones who make fun are lacking in the pants. If you catch my drift.
PRIDE
EGO
self-esteem
Agreed.
Shouldn’t be a problem anymore…
I don’t’ think Tom cruise was insecure with Nicole Kidman when she would kiss him on the top of his head. Or if he had to get on his tippy toes to kiss her
2009 or not… it just is the stereotype we see still and people have a need to go by it apperantly… or its just out of a person’s personal choice…
CUZ IT LOOK WEIRD PPL ARE ACCOSTEMD TO SOMETHING BEING A CERTAIN WAY
it’s just weird dating a guy shorter than you, idk why.
they look weird together
we’re not used to it.
just like how the republicans dont want a black president.
my crush is shorter than me
thats the reason he dont like me
it looks like a human with a pet monkey