Here is another cool question from yahoo answers. Obviously this guy hasn’t taken my secret “dating quiz for men“. Otherwise, he’d have all the personalized dating tips he needs, but I’m going to answer his question below anyway.

Question:

Any advice would be helpful, especially from men and women who are dating or in a long term relationship, tell me what keeps the relationship strong.

My quick answer to this question:

(cliche coming) Be yourself…

I know this sounds corny and cliche, but here’s what it means when I say it. It means don’t fake stuff in order to get someone. Most relationships that break apart, break apart because people faked who they are, in order to impress the person they were dating. The guy did stuff to impress the girl which he doesn’t ussually do, she played into a role to impress him and get him to like her… and as they got into a relationship, they got lazier and became more of who they really are… They stopped the act… and the relationship didn’t last.

Keeps your options open

This might sound counter-productive to someone who’s interested in longer term relationships… But its actually not… Don’t get lazy and stop meeting attractive people coz you got into a relationship. Don’t just date one person at a time. If you only date one person at a time, neediness creeps in and you over-estimate how good the person is for a long-term relationship. Date more than one person, and compare before you decide to go further with one of them.

And even when you get into a relationship, don’t get lazy and act like a 90 year old couple and stay at home all day. Go out, socialize and meet cool, new attractive people all the time. Note, I am notsaying to cheat if commited. I am just saying “meet”. I am not saying “flirt”. There is a difference. Just meet. And… see, cheating ussually doesn’t happen from a person decidin to cheat… its more like a junk-food craving. Its like putting yourself on a diet for so long that one day you wake up with an uncontrollabe urge for that junk food you forbid yourself.

Same thing with cheating. If you allow yourself to meet new people (but not take it all the way), most of your “junk food needS” will be met. They will be met by attractive hot persons of the opposite gender being present in your life, and obviously interested in you. You know that if your partner dumped you, you have 20 backups ready to take her/his place, TOMMOROW!

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