Some dude from yahoo answers had a cool question. Now, its obvious he hasnt taken my secret quiz, but ignore that, and focus on his question, and how I answer it.
Question: I sometimes hear about men not wanting to continue dating women who have sex “too soon.”
Do you feel this way? Why or why not?
Answer: Well, its a complex question, because there are 3.5 BILLION men on this planet, lol… so, you’re not going to find out much about guys in general by asking this.
If you’re a guy reading this, what I wanna say to you is… If you’re one of those guys who wants to have more sex with women, but at the same time, you think less of women if they have sex with you too soon… This is going to hurt you badly. If you want to have more sex, with hotter women, you have to come across as a care-free guy, the kind that’s non-judgemental, and just wants to give and receive plenty of good pleasure. Magical things will happen if you change your attitude like this, women will all of a sudden be a lot more sexual around you.
And NOTE this… its not concious in any way… Its not like women drill you to find out if you’re this guy… They can just tell. I know this sounds all new-agey, but its true… Women read subtle clues very well… And you’re giving them off whether you’re aware of it or not. So if you’re judgemental about women having sex too soon, you won’t be having much of it. Its that simple.
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well, if a girl pretty much just gave me an easy access. Then I would just think, how many times has she done this? How easy is she?
It would make me want to do it, then run away, but I wouldnt do it cause Im not that kind of guy.
With me, I would like my girl firned to wait as long as possible till I break out and show the love.
I would say, too soon is anywhere from first met, to…. 6 months?
I know a lot of people do it sooner, but then thats why their are so many un wanted pregnancies and bad relationships.
You want the guy to show you that he loves you in other big ways than sex, before you start doing it. Then that would mean much more to you, when the both of you do it.
Yes I think too soon is an option. You should make the guy work for it I.E. Make him fall in love with you and let him know you’re not one who gives it away. The reason it is important because most likely he will stay with you longer if you wait. If you just do it then he will assume that is the way you are with everyone. Unless there is a past with you and this person. I hope this helps. Trust me just make him wait. =)
Some of the biggest sluts I’ve known were the ones who waited the longest before having sex, so you can’t always go by that.
if the sex was good and i am single i would continue dating (maybe only 4 sex).if i would be in a relationship and had sex with a girl on a first date i would have acchieved my goal and i would not date anymore.
i hope i could clear some things bout the man’s braine…:P
it all goes on how comfortable u r with that person. There are men who don’t feel comfortable with a girl right away. and then there are men who don’t care whatever. like i said it all goes on how comfortable u feel with a girl!!!!!!!
What is to soon. to me a month is to long but a few days is perfect. this is the 2000′s not the 1700′s and most relationships today start as sex based and morph into other things
Tough one to answer.
I didn’t have a rule but I’ve learned my wife was a firm believer in the 3rd date rule. You asked her out on the 3rd date and if she said ‘yes’ it wasn’t just for dinner.
There’s no such thing as “too soon” for me, but there is such a thing as too long.
Some men are girly-p*ssies and that is why they don’t want to have sex too soon.
3RD DATE RULE
I’m not a man, but you should probably have sex before you date…just incase he sucks in bed